“There are 5 essential keys to love that you must have for your relationship to go the distance,” says Carol Allen, a renowned Vedic astrologer, relationship coach and author of Love Is In The Stars. If you’re missing ANY of the five keys, then your love won’t last.
Couples can develop all five keys to revive intimacy and passionate devotion even if it seems long gone. Single men and women can use these 5 keys to attract your true love match, so you can stop wondering if you’re in the right relationship or wasting time in the wrong one.
How do you develop 5 critical keys to lasting love?
In Part 1 of my interview with Carol Allen, you’ll discover one critical key that a couple is lacking when they have great chemistry and passion in the bedroom but they can’t get along anywhere else. They’d fail a compatibility test. How can passionate couples become more compatible?
If there is striking incompatibility and constant conflict, then it may be too much work to stay together. Studies prove that every couple has 10-12 irreconcilable differences, yet they can still be compatible in a relationship.
Alternately, you might have perfect compatibility in life goals and great physical chemistry with someone who is broken or bipolar or addicted or who fears intimacy. You’ll wish you never got into a relationship with them because they won’t be able to fulfill your needs.
So your ultimate question before you commit is, “Can I get my needs met in this relationship?”
It’s not enough to have great chemistry if you’re with a broken person who can’t meet your needs. In 20 years of relationship coaching, Carol observed that people have standards too high in resume qualities that they want in a partner yet too low in the treatment they will tolerate from them.
How do you set boundaries on treatment you tolerate or desire from a partner?
Before you choose a partner, consider these key questions:
Are they nice to me?
Are they showing up as promised?
Are they excited to be with me?
Do they show their love in positive, healthy ways?
If you enter a relationship to heal someone so they will treat you better, then you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re not trained to heal them, so you may face the same issues for a lifetime. Years of therapy may not even heal a broken person who hates their mother, has terrible relationships, can’t hold a job, can’t stop an addiction.
The broken person needs to get healthy before they’re ready to be in a relationship. That’s another critical key we’ll discuss later.
What if someone has married a broken partner?
It doesn’t mean you should leave your spouse. It means you should improve your relationship by elevating your behavior to bring out the best in your partner and yourself.
Broken people often have wounded egos. If they feel a hint of criticism, they will blow up or behave badly–prompted more by unhealed wounds from their past more than to what you’re doing now.
How do you improve your relationship with a wounded partner?
Avoid any criticism, rolling of your eyes, sighing or negative tones in your voice that trigger their bad behavior.
Treat them with total respect, compliment their best qualities and suggest positive, fun things each of you can do to experience more joy together. Broken people often respond well to win-win opportunities that you create to improve your relationship.
What if your wounded partner refuses to improve your relationship?
If your partner won’t work on your relationship, don’t take it personally. You will only make things worse if you use the old argument, “If you loved me, then you will do what I want.”
They may love you but they are unwilling or unable to fulfill your needs, because of their unhealed wounds and issues from the past. You still can use these critical keys and other relationship success tools to break your negative communication patterns and improve all of your interactions with your partner.
In Part 2, you’ll discover the most critical key to a lasting love. And claim your FREE newsletter with love tips from renowned Vedic Astrologer and relationship coach, Carol Allen
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