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Home isn’t just a physical place we go to. It’s also a safe haven inside of us that grounds us and nurtures us with love. A lack of an inner safe house can make you feel lost and disconnected from the world.
You can reconnect with home and feel peace in any crisis when you use your Inner G-P-S. It’s an emotional navigation tool that guides you home the same way your Global Positioning System guides you to your driving destination.
Learn how to use your inner BPS to find home, happiness and love during my interview with Leonard Szymczak, a renowned psychotherapist who wrote The Roadmap Home: Your G-P-S to Inner Peace.
Everyone wants to feel inner peace. So how do you help people who are stressed by finances, health or relationship issues to use their GPS to find inner peace?
Our peace always resides within. It’s a sense of stillness that has nothing to do with outer circumstances. In challenging times, you have to take charge of your thoughts, using your mind to find your inner stillness. Leonard’s inner G-P-S stands for the Guiding Power of Spirit which helps you reach that stillness.
What do you say to people who set their inner G-P-S to external factors like wealth and success on their road to happiness?
We often aren’t taught how to find peace, love and home within ourselves, so we seek it in other people, in economic security or in external trappings of success. The journey to inner peace and love is always an inward journey to personal and spiritual growth that creates contentment.
How do you begin the journey?
Clearing clutter from your physical home and your emotional home is a great place to start. Clean up messes, let go of emotional resentments or bitterness from past relationships through forgiveness, and release any thoughts or actions that block your love and peace.
Understand that you choose your thoughts and actions, so now you can choose those that lead to positive feelings and progress toward home.
How do we create our road map home?
First you recognize that you are lost. If you don’t realize that you’ve strayed far away from home, then you will get painful wake-up calls that jolt you and ask you where you are putting your values.
When the pain of living becomes greater than the pain of change, then you are going to change. It often requires you to experience intense pain in which you no longer will tolerate life on your current path before you take a better path.
Sometimes you have to lose the security of home and go on the journey on the yellow brick road to find your heart’s desire, which was the point of Dorothy’s journey home in the 1939 film, The Wizard of Oz.
Once you are awake to the fact you are lost, the goal is to stay awake so can see signposts that guide your journey.
What are the important signposts?
You can see people in your life as mirrors that help you look at yourself and show you what you need to heal in yourself. When someone makes you feel unloved or unworthy, it can make you feel shame. You release it when you say to yourself, “Even though I feel unloved, I accept myself and love myself just the way I am.”
As you accept yourself completely, you then ask yourself, “How do I want to feel?”
If you want to feel loved, then you figure out what you can do right now to make yourself feel loved. Then do it, even if it includes distancing yourself from people who make you feel unworthy of love.
If you feel unloved and get stuck in “woe is me” thinking, it’s like beating your head with a brick. That’s how your thoughts can beat you up.
Alternately, you can place the brick on the yellow brick road you are taking home, and choose a positive thought that makes you feel loved and supported each step of your journey.
Once you find your inner home, how does this affect your relationships?
The goal is to create conscious relationships where each of you feel inner contentment and where you are creating something beautiful in the way you heal wounds and give and receive love.
How do singles use your inner G-P-S in dating?
Keep your G-P-S turned on so you stay in touch with who you really are, and then choose a match who appreciates the wonders of you.
Many singles make the mistake of putting on a mask to be the person their date would like them to be, instead of becoming the best person you can be as you fulfill your heart’s desires. Your ideal match will value and share your best qualities, which helps you move on from the dates who don’t.
Why should couples keep their inner G-P-S turned on?
It’s your guide to consistently choose thoughts and actions that bring you peace, love and feelings of home in your relationship.
Ask each other often what you want to experience together, and then change your course of action to keep things fresh and exciting in your relationship.
Get all the happy, sexy love you desire,
Hadley Finch
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