Guide To Healthy Relationships. Discover Why Resilience Is The Secret To Healthy Relationships And A Healthy America

No one escapes all the bumps on the road of life. Whether you stumble, stay down or bounce back from your big bumps may depend on your mindset. You’re about to discover why resilience is the secret key to good health in your relationships and in America during challenging times.

I often tell my online community that the Tribe of Blondes is not a hair color. It is a resilient, hopeful spirit that unites us and fuels our passionate choices and personal triumphs. We’re all born with this spirit. The secret is to keep it alive.

This resilient spirit is necessary to help us rebound from the challenges facing America and from the stress these challenges are placing on our personal relationships.

What is resilience?
Resilience in psychology is the positive capacity of people to cope with stress, trauma, and catastrophe. Resilience offers cumulative protective factors that are resistant to future negative events.

The phrase “risk and resilience”‘ is quite common, since resilience of spirit helps you transcend risks from exposure to adversity, mistreatment and negative life conditions. Hardiness, resourcefulness and adaptability are synonymous terms for emotional and psychological resilience.

What is the most important factor that promotes resilience?

Recent studies have confirmed the association between positive emotions and resilience. Resilient people are better able to differentiate between positive and negative emotions under stress.

A 2003 study led by Frederickson after the 9-11 attacks on America suggests that positive emotions are critical elements in resilience and act as a mediator that buffer people from depression after crises like 9-11 or the death of loved ones.

Highly resilient people are more likely to notice positive meanings within the problems they face.
People with high levels of resilience are likely to show low levels of depression.

Low resilient people exhibit the difficulties of regulating negative emotions and demonstrate sensitive reaction to daily stressful life events (Ong et al., 2006). They are likely to believe that there is no end to the unpleasant experience of daily stresses.

In general, resilient people are believed to focus on positive emotions, and such emotions in turn influence their positive responses to adversity.

What are other factors and attitudes that promote resilience?

* The ability to cope with stress effectively and in a healthy manner
* Having good problem-solving skills
* Seeking help
* Holding the belief that there is something one can do to manage your feelings and cope
* Having social support
* Being connected with others, such as family or friends
* Self-disclosure of the trauma to loved ones
* Spirituality
* Having an identity as a survivor as opposed to a victim
* Helping others
* Finding positive meaning in the challenge or trauma you are facing

Which of these attitudes or actions could you adopt to promote a more positive, healthy outlook in your life and your relationships?

Which attitudes or actions could the Media, government, business and social leaders adopt to promote our good health and formulate positive resolutions of the challenges we face as a country?

It’s time to inspire and nurture resilience in our whole tribe!

Hadley