Love Test – Should You Fake It Until You Feel It?

Have you ever thrown away a relationship because you’ve lost that loving feeling?
Have you walked away from a highly compatible match because that loving feeling never happened?

Disposable or unattainable relationships tend to be the result of a romantic notion is that love is a feeling. You’re about to discover the reality of what love is and why you may want to ‘fake it until you feel it’.

Jean-Paul Sartre said, “There is no love apart from the deeds of love; no potentiality of love but that which is manifested in loving.”

The spiritual theory is that you give what you’re lacking and the lack is gone. It may sound like magical thinking, yet researchers who study how our behavior affects love and happiness tell us to act the way we want to feel. Hard science has proven this strategy really works.

I’d like to recommend you try a new experiment: If you want to feel love, first you will see love as an action word. Then you take loving actions until feelings of love arise from them, like steam rising from hot springs.

I realize this experiment may require a change in your current behavior. For example, if you often complain that love has vanished in your relationship, now you will stop complaining and start using the antidote.

How can you express love each day?

By giving authentic compliments, by being thoughtful, kind, affectionate, and by doing more things that you and your partner love to do each day. Then notice how loving actions spark loving feelings, in the bedroom and in your daily life.

What if you’re single and often complain that you’ve given up on finding love?

The antidote is to stop complaining and start falling in love again, with yourself first. Treat yourself with loving kindness and treat people in your life the same way. Then you are radiating feelings of love and ready to attract your best love match.

Next, you take loving steps to meet your match by signing up for social activities, by hiring a matchmaker, by joining a singles travel club or a dating site that unites great singles who are seeking genuine love.

What if you meet a compatible match and you bring out the best in each other, but you’re waiting for the lightning bolt of love to strike?

I suggest that you fake it until you feel it. Engage in daily acts of platonic love and see if this sparks physical passion. Through your loving actions you become love in action. And let us know what happens, by sharing your story in the comment box below this post!

And I invite singles to meet for free in the social network and travel club I started for positive, optimistic singles.
Meet in cozy video chats or on vacations like art and wine tour of Italy or volunteering on a wild bear preserve in the US. Click SINGLES CLUB in the menu bar and sign up!

Love deeply and live your dreams now,

Hadley Finch