Happy Sexy Love How to bulletproof relationships with happy, sexy love
Brutal reviews of SEX AND THE CITY 2 nearly stopped me from seeing Carrie Bradshaw and friends’ latest adventures in Abu Dhabi. Fortunately, my desire for a guilty pleasure prevailed, so I caught a matinee on a rainy Saturday. I looked beyond the exaggerated glamor and rude hubris as Carrie and “the girls” clashed with the culture and customs of “the new Dubai”, and then I saw the romantic heart of the film.
Sex and the City 2 explores marriage traditions and shows couples how to make your own rules and design a relationship your way so it works best for you.
How?
By asking better questions before and after you walk down the aisle. Here are some key questions that Carrie and friends explore:
The lavish gay wedding that launches the film inspires all couples to ask, “Do you know, love and accept your partner, flaws and all?”
When Charlotte hires a busty, joyful nanny to care for her two cranky children, she asks the girls if she should trust in her husband’s loyalty. I would advise couples to be smarter and pose that question to your spouse to deal with sexual temptation rather than deny it.
You’ll question if Miranda’s loyalty is misplaced when she rudely accepts constant cell calls from her abusive senior partner at her law firm than and devotes more attention to him than to her husband and son. Will Miranda wake up to a priority shift?
The film’s narrator, Carrie, wonders why she writes a book on marriage before she figures out how to stop worrying about becoming a boring married couple and start bringing back the sparkle with her husband, Big.
What inspires Carrie to become less self absorbed and more focused on her husband’s needs?
Two wake-up calls: The New Yorker bashes her new book on marriage, and she feels as if she broke her marriage vows in her impromptu rendezvous with her former lover, Aidan. Will she confess this to Big or keep the secret that could alienate them? Carrie’s answer is a catalyst for growth as a couple.
As you see how each couple tests their vows and figures out how to live up to them to make their marriage work, you’ll notice how emotionally stunted Samantha has become by comparison. She behaves like a pathetic caricature of a hot menopausal woman who uses a nutritious fountain of youth to feed her libido and fuel her soulless search for new sexual conquests. Samantha is totally oblivious of the people she offends and the risks she takes in pursuit of sexual pleasure, which jeopardizes her PR assignment abroad and her closest friendships.
In the film’s romantic climax, Sarah Jessica Parker’s savvy Carrie Bradshaw faces marital realities and suggests that adults without children have the luxury to design your own life and decorate it your way. When she says, “Love is your color”, it rings true for everyone but Samantha, the 52-year old sexual narcissist. I hope it’s back to the drawing board for a redesign of Samantha’s life if there is to be a Sex and the City 3.
And you’ll get smart love tips for happy relationships in hundreds of my articles, radio shows and in my novel with songs, Tribe Of Blondes. Not a hair color, it’s a resilient vibrant spirit that unites us and fuels our passionate choices and personal triumphs. A reviewer said “It’s Sex and the City meet’s First Wives Club who know The Secret.” You’ll find true love with secrets you learn from the Tribe of Blondes!
Love deeply and live your dreams now,
Hadley Finch
