Your relationship success determines your level of success in every aspect of your life.
In highlights of Hadley Finch’s radio interview with success coach, Wendy Lipton-Dibner, you discovered this 3-step success formula that always gets your goals guaranteed:
Desire + Resources + Permission = Action
Now Hadley and Wendy apply this formula to resolve relationship conflicts.
Hadley: Tell us how this success formula deals with difficult people who steal your joy or block your success.
Wendy: A piece of the formula is to recognize the conversations going on in your head. Your inner critic comes out when you deal with difficult people, who often are difficult because they don’t have enough self esteem. Their inner critic makes you feel worse, so they can feel better.
Your challenge is to flip it around. Rather than accept their invitation for you to feel bad,
you make them feel better. The challenge is to nurture them in that moment. How?
You will notice someone’s pain by saying, “Wow. Sounds like you’re having a tough, tough day.” When you offer empathy to a difficult person, it disarms them. They suddenly recoil rather than fighting more.
Hadley: If you are hard on yourself yet nice to other people, then you can relieve that burden by asking your inner critic to go on vacation—so you can feel better and be your own best friend.
Wendy: You also can talk to your inner critic in disarming ways. That sounds like this:
Start an inner dialogue by asking, “Why are you doing this to me?”
Say the first reason that comes to mind.
Then explain why that reason doesn’t make sense; why it stops you from getting what you want.
Now tell your inner critic how you’re going to change that. Then do it.
During your inner dialogue, you may hear the voice of a strict parent blocking your joy or progress.
You can say to yourself, “I am in charge of my own life now, and I make my own rules.”
Then make new choices and rules that serve you best.
Take these 3 steps to get all the happy, sexy love and success you desire,
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