Happy Sexy Love How to bulletproof relationships with happy, sexy love
In Part 1, you discovered seduction secrets from inside America’s legal brothels, which you can use to turn up the sexual heat in your relationship–no matter how long you’ve been together. What can you learn from a married couple who go together to Bunny Ranch Brothel?
Find out how this affects their 20-year marriage in this summary of my radio discussion with acclaimed photographer, Marc McAndrews, who spent 5 years visiting and photographing behind closed doors of legal brothels to create the photography-art book, Nevada Rose: Inside American Brothels.
Marc introduced me to this married couple whom he met with mutual friends inside Bunny Ranch Brothel. Preferring to remain anonymous, I’ll refer to this married couple as husband or wife speaking in highlights of our conversation for A Lasting Love radio show.
HF: In my work as a love guide for singles and couples, I often hear the same complaint from men and women who say their spouse had stopped having sex with them. So they either strayed or got divorced over lack of marital sex. I understand you’ve been married for 20 years, and you go as a couple to the famed Bunny Ranch Brothel. Do you have separate sessions or do you go into the same room to fulfill your sexual fantasies together?
HUSBAND: My wife and I go into the same room. For this to work and for a marriage stay stable, at least in my experience, the woman must suggest this. It must be her idea, and then her husband agrees.
HF: Was it her idea to have a three-way encounter with another man or woman?
HUSBAND: Only women are available at Bunny Ranch. If you wanted to include an extra man there, you’d have to bring him along.
HF: Since it is a favorite male fantasy to have sex with two women at once, was your wife fulfilling your fantasy or hers?
WIFE: I suggested this because I thought it would be fun for each of us. I got the idea by watching an HBO special called, Cat House. I was intrigued. We talked about this idea for a couple years before we finally acted on it.
HF: How did having a sexual threesome affect you and your marriage?
WIFE: It was great fun for me, and it brought us closer as a couple. It wouldn’t have worked if we had asked someone we knew to do this with us. The women at Bunny Ranch were warm and supportive. We now consider them friends.
HUSBAND: And it only worked because I let my wife take the lead in suggesting it.
WIFE: He told me he thought I would change my mind when we got in the negotiation room for the first time, where we explained what we wanted to do. Yet I never thought of backing out, after I decided this could add some excitement to our long marriage.
HF Comments: I realize that most couples might not be as open minded as the couple I interviewed, for many reasons. Yet what can you learn from this married couple that could rekindle passion with your partner?
No topic is taboo between two people in a relationship. You can start talking about your sexual fantasies with your partner and ask him or her to tell you their fantasies.
Once you know each others’ fantasies, what’s the next step?
You might decide against acting on any sexual fantasy that could threaten your marital vows or emotional security. By merely having this conversation, you will deepen emotional intimacy that brings you closer as a couple. An added benefit is that fulfilling sexual fantasies between the two of you will seem like a natural thing to do. Your goal is to find fresh ways to add excitement to your sexual relationship, no matter how many years you’ve been together as a couple.
Get all the happy, sexy love you desire,
Hadley Finch
