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36 Dating Questions Lead To Love

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If you’re dating to find love, you’re about to discover 36 ways to accelerate the dating process that sorts through mismatches and creates emotional intimacy which leads to love. How do you start?

On your next date with an intriguing match, suggest a dating conversation that helps you know and be known by asking up to 37 personal questions which foster mutual vulnerability and emotional closeness. After this shared inquiry, you’ll spend four minutes gazing silently into each others eyes, and see what feelings arise.

37 Questions That Lead You To Love are reprinted from a February 2015 NY Times article. It refers to an April, 1997 study led by New York University psychologist, Arthur Aaron (and others), who explored whether intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated by having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions. The 36 questions in the study are broken up into three sets, with each set intended to be more probing than the previous one.

The idea is that mutual vulnerability fosters closeness. To quote the study’s authors, “One key pattern associated with the development of a close relationship among peers is sustained, escalating, reciprocal, personal self-disclosure.” Allowing oneself to be vulnerable with another person can be exceedingly difficult, so these dating questions force the issue.

37 Dating Questions Lead To Love And Intimacy
Each set of questions is intended to be more probing than the previous set.

Set I

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Set II

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

20. What does friendship mean to you?

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
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24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

Set III

25. Make three true “we” statements each about you and your match. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling … “

26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … “

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

BONUS QUESTION: Big wedding or small?

After this shared inquiry, you’ll spend four minutes gazing silently into each others eyes, and see what feelings arise.

I suggest you use these questions when you meet a match in a fun video chat in SinglesLoveMatches.com where great singles meet love matches in meetup events, dating chat videos and in singles love vacations–so no more blind dates!

What if your date refuses to engage in this dating conversation? If you want to have the conversations and they don’t, you’ve identified a mismatch. Next!

Will deep dating conversations help you find the love you dream of? Let us know in the comment box below.

Get all the happy, sexy love you desire,

Hadley Finch

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