No need to be a superhero to rescue a frustrating, lifeless relationship. All you need is affirmative action. First, I’ll define the term. Then I’ll suggest one new step couples can take each day to rescue happy, sexy love in your relationship.
Affirmative action can be defined as positive actions that favor members of a disadvantaged group who suffer from discrimination.
Applied to romantic relationships, affirmative action rights wrongful actions or the failure to take right actions that improve the love connection with your partner.
What is one affirmative right action that rescues a relationship?
It’s taking every opportunity to alleviate pain in your partner.
A benefit of this right action is it’s also a fine thing to do for you, as well.
Can you remember a time when you saw your partner in pain, yet you ignored it or passed up the chance to relieve it?
If so, how did it make you feel when that happened, and now that time has passed?
Can you make up for that failure by taking every opportunity to relieve pain from now on?
That’s the success formula. According to John Gottman’s relationship research, it takes 5 positive actions to make up for one negative one in a relationship. If you truly want to rescue a negative relationship, affirmative right actions are the positive step you need to take at every opportunity, starting today.
If you see your partner in pain, it’s no longer an option to look the other way or disengage emotionally. What do you do instead?
Sometimes it’s easy to figure out. Do they need help with a task? If so, give them a hand.
If a positive action needs to be taken, you need to take it without excuses.
What if the cause of their pain is a mystery to you?
Talk about it.
Tell them that you can see they’re in pain.
Ask how you can help ease it, or take some weight off their shoulders.
Pay attention to their reply.
Take action on it, before they give up on you.
Make sure your partner can count on you to have their needs on your priority list,
so they will feel seen, heard, appreciated by you.
How often must you relieve their pain to rescue a negative relationship?
Take every opportunity to ease their pain for 21 consecutive days.
That is how long it takes to form a new love habit, so this becomes
second nature to you.
Notice how your new attitude and affirmative actions improve intimacy
and bring out the best in each other.
Tell us how this works for you in the comment box below.
Get all the happy, sexy love you desire now,