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Online Dating Research – Love, Lies, What They Learned

Millions of people want to find love online. Top dating sites had over 593 million visits in the U.S. last month. Scientific researchers have examined the risks, uncertainties and rewards of meeting your love match online. The New York Times revealed their findings, and you can read the full report by clicking this link.

Researchers led by Professor Catalina Toma, University of Wisconsin-Madison, found that 81 percent of people had misrepresented their height, weight and age in their dating profiles. My research confirms this, which is why I created the only dating site where you can’t lie about your age because you don’t post it. You only post the preferred age range of your ideal match, and then your dating profile appears in searches in that age range. You don’t post your height or weight, because of another innovation I’ve implemented for the following reasons.

Researchers told the NY Times that they found another issue with people posting old photos online. I also discovered this issue when I’d traveled 10,000 miles to to meet an American Expat who’d contacted me online. We’d talked by phone daily for over a month before I got on that plane to meet him. I was shocked to see that in person he looked 20 years older and 30 pounds heavier than in his dating photo. He was still a handsome man, it was a question of honesty–a value I hold dear.

I handled this issue while designing my dating site, where people meet in live video chats before you decide whether to meet in person. So you get to know and like each other exactly as you are right now, not in some outdated photo.

When you want to find love with a trustworthy partner, you need to identify signs of lying. Why do daters lie?

“To meet the expectations of what they think their audience is,” Professor Toma told the Times. She used computer analysis to detect when someone is lying in their dating profile. Here are the linguistic signs of lies:

Liars tend to use fewer first-person pronouns. Professor Toma said this is an indication of psychological distancing: “You’re feeling guilty or anxious or nervous.” Liars use more negative words like “not” and “never,” yet another way of putting up a buffer. Liars use fewer negative emotion words like “sad” and “upset,” and they write shorter online personal essays. “It’s easier not to get caught if you say less,” she said.

Scholars say a certain amount of fibbing is socially acceptable — even necessary — to compete in the online dating culture. That attitude frustrates the honest dater who puts their best foot forward without lying. I help you do this as I guide your love quest and help you choose your perfect match in my dating site for positive, accomplished singles who believe in great love. Take a free look around as my guest at www.TribeOfSingles.com

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Get the red-hot love life you deserve,

Hadley Finch

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