Hadley Finch says, “Parents may lose sexual desire in a marriage, even when love remains.” Why?
It’s not looks. It’s not age. It’s a change in how you make each other feel.
Maya Angelo said, “At the end of the day people won’t remember
what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.”
This changes in a marriage. At the end of the day, a spouse remembers what you said and did, and how you made them feel, because it’s very personal.
Discover three reasons parents lose sexual desire in a marriage:
- Chronic stress and fatigue
Stress from duties, deadlines, finances, and child care can drain physical energy, leaving little energy left to feel or act on sexual desire.
2. Predictable routines and a loss of curiosity
Couples focused on calendars and logistics instead of on each other, may settle for being roommates instead of lovers. Total predictability can dull erotic attraction.
3. Emotional disconnection, frequent complaints, and unmanaged anger
Partners stop feeling emotionally safe, truly seen, and appreciated.
Unresolved arguments, frequent complaints, and angry outbursts tend to repel instead of inspire sexual desire.
How can couples rescue a relationship and revive desire without a therapist’s intervention?
1. Go out on weekly dates. It’s sacred time for couples to share fun activities, with no talk of duties, deadlines, kids, or careers. Don’t have the time or money?
Having fun and staying curious about each other is less costly than divorce court.
2. Express appreciation for the good things your beloved partner does each day.
You get more of what you focus on, so focus on the good things in your partner and in yourself to feel more love and desire.
3. Use quantum tools to ease stress and manage anger with love as you explore
ANGER MANAGEMENT FOR PARENTS by Hadley Finch
***Please seek advice from a medical doctor to treat physical and mental impairments that may impact sexual desire***
