A young woman (30) told me she got so angry over 2016 Presidential election results that a blood vessel burst in her brain and she was in intensive care for two weeks.
A young man (30) said he’s consumed by anger over a business partner’s betrayal that may take down their start up.
Why is there an urgent need to learn how to diffuse the destructive power of anger?
Brain researchers urge us to beat anger before it rewires the brain and beats us.
That can happen after a intense period of allowing anger to take control of your thoughts, feelings, actions, outlook.
I present proven exercises that diffuse the destructive energy of anger and channel it in constructive ways to produce results you desire.
FIRST do an exercise for the urgent release of anger.
* Choose a private room where you can’t be seen or heard by anyone.
* Place a photo or sketch of your antagonist against a large pillow you don’t mind destroying.
* Use a sturdy tennis racket to beat to shreds the image of your antagonist.
* Beat out your anger against every betrayal, every lie, every breech of faith.
* Verbalize or vent sounds of your primal rage caused by each abuse against you.
* Shout out each criticism the wrongdoer deserves due to their dishonest,
despicable actions that harm you, your livelihood, your reputation, your family,
* Keep ranting and beating their image until you destroy it.
* Have backup images ready if you need to destroy them, too.
Imagine each step above while you’re in a private room where you won’t be disturbed.
Studies reveal you can release rage by visualizing that you’re beating your antagonist
or throwing them off a cliff, and by mentally verbalizing anger against each thing
they did wrong or failed to do right.
Whether you visualize and emotionalize this beating or you physically execute the beating
against their image on a pillow or punching bag, this exercise lets you destroy
your antagonist and get rid of the rage you’re allowing them to build inside you.
Repeat exercise daily until you’ve cleared out the rage their wrongdoing has built in you.
SECOND, decide how much time each day you will allow yourself to focus on anger
over the harm your antagonist is inflicting against you. If you allow 30 minutes or an hour
or two hours a day, then enforce your limit. How?
Remember that you choose your thoughts in each moment. You choose to focus/vent
during your allotted time each day. Once you’ve fulfilled your chosen daily limit,
then be conscious of each instance your thoughts and feelings try to turn back to rage.
Break that angry thought habit before it gets wired in your brain and breaks you.
Replace angry thinking/feeling with something better.
Consciously refocus your thoughts onto something constructive,
while mentally reminding your angry self that you’ll have time again tomorrow to feel the fury
over the threatened or actual wrongdoing against you.
Be tender and patient with yourself while you recover and rebuild after this brutal assault
against you and everything you hold dear.
Make time each day to do something you love for your well being and joy and not out of duty.
Breathe deeply. Think, “All is well and as it should be in this moment. I have all the time I need to realize my dreams.” (This replaces victim thinking that blames your antagonist or scarcity thinking that steals your peace of mind like, “No time to get things done.”)
Do these exercises as often as needed to get relief from rage and get back on the happiness track where you belong.
Let me know how this works for you in the comment box below.
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