Why do people with a high I.Q. often struggle with relationships? Because they may have a low E.I. Research shows that E.I. not I.Q. determines how well we do in life–from our relationship to our career and finances–and ultimately how effective we are at communicating, leading making decisions and solving problems. We may be stuck with our I.Q. after about age 18, but our E.I. can change and improve.
Fortunately, it’s never too late or too early in life to increase our Emotional Intelligence. To find out how to do that, I interviewed The E.I. Guy, Harvey Deutschendorf, who wrote the book on the subject: The Other Kind Of Smart–Simple Ways To Boost Your Emotional Intelligence for greater personal effectiveness and success.
First, you measure your E.I. by taking a quick quiz:
* Believe helping others is an important part of life?
* Rarely speak or act without thinking things through?
* Easily understand why other people feel the way they do?
* Adapt smoothly to change?
* Expect things to get better in the future?
* Spend time with friends who support you and your goals?
If you answered a whole-hearted YES to these questions, then you have a high E.I.
If you answered NO to one or more questions, then your E. I. is low. The good news is that it can be improved. We can grow our emotional intelligence throughout our entire life.
How do we increase our E. I.?
If you can’t get along with people or you can’t connect easily, this is just where you are right now. You can improve the way you relate with people when you take a few simple steps that the EI Guy recommends, after he’d used them successfully to raise his own EI:
* Start asking people questions and be a good listener to the answers.
* Become interested in things that other people are interested in.
* Strike up conversations with strangers so you become for comfortable talking to people.
* Take the focus away from yourself or your fears by focusing on the needs of others.
* Look at actors in films and see how they experience emotions to help yourself identify your own feelings.
* Diffuse your impulse to blurt things out that may get you into trouble, by taking a time out and counting to 10 as a distraction to clear your thoughts.
* Become more optimistic by focusing on your strengths instead of flaws, on solutions instead of problems and on all things that have gone right in your life.
* Keep a gratitude journal, listing many blessings and accomplishments each day
* Do something positive that you know will have a good outcome, in your goal setting.
* Celebrate your achievements throughout each day of your life.
* Form connections with people you meet at work, at home and wherever you go in life.
* Feel thankful for ways you’ve been resilient and come through many challenges in life.
Harvey Deutschendorf’s book suggests many other steps you can take now to raise your Emotional Intelligence. They promote the resilient optimistic spirit that gives the Tribe Of Blondes its name and creates happy relationships. Ideally, you will use these tips to increase your E.I. so you can experience greater success and happiness in life and love.
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