How Anger Makes You Happy

Many Americans are mad as hell and they’re not going to take it anymore. From angry spouses, bullying bosses, rude co-workers and more work responsibilities for the same or less pay, many of us are angry during and after work.

And that’s a good thing, because you’re about to learn how to use the energy of anger for positive change at work and at home in highlights of my radio interview with Tom Wright. He’s the anger management breakthrough expert and communications coach who had advised Presidents Nixon and Ford. He earned 7 black belts and published books of poetry plus self development books including, How to Change Your Life Completely in Ten Seconds and How Anger Makes Me Happy.

You’ve helped thousands of people, from billionaires to death-row inmates, use anger to their advantage. If anger often ruins relationships, gets you fired or into big trouble, why do you view anger as a good thing?

“Anger is just energy, neither good nor bad,” said Tom Wright. “You can choose to channel the energy of anger into greater creativity and confidence in your relationships at home and at work.”

It’s not easy to channel anger when it’s boiling up inside you like a pressure cooker on a hot flame. How do you lower the heat before your anger explodes?

“Start at the beginning, which always is with you.” Mr. Wright explained the process. “If you try to hide or deny your anger, you raise the flame and set yourself up for uncontrollable outbursts.

You can lower the flame when you observe your anger building up and think, ‘I’m angry, and it’s okay to feel this way.’ Then you notice the behavior your anger usually evokes in you, and you make better choices each time you feel angry.”

Venting anger in destructive ways can be a tough habit to break. Where do you start?

“The road to anger and ruined relationships is a four-lane highway that you’ve built inside you. So you can change the direction of that road,” Tom said. “With daily practice of accepting anger and using it to make better choices, you can change anger from being a block to being pure energy you use to be happy. It’s not easy but it’s worth it, because it will change your life.”

That may seem like an impossible dream, if your anger has alienated too many people. How do you handle anger that has blocked your love and success?

“You make a commitment to handle anger in new ways and set yourself up to win,” Tom said. “The first step is to find a life purpose that’s a four-lane road to a new destination you love more than where you ended up on your road to anger. And take that new road from now on.”

Now that you know you can choose how to use your anger, I encourage you welcome it when you feel it brewing up and see it as a new call to action. Imagine how you can use the pure power of anger to express your creativity, build better relationships, get more accomplished at work and fulfill your life purpose.

If you’re not sure how to fulfill your life purpose, it’s often because you don’t know how to find it. Here is the only clue you need:

Notice what you love to do, what makes you come totally alive. Then do more of this every day.

Your life purpose brings you joy however you fulfill it, whether it’s raising a family, making great friendships, growing a business, cooking great meals, expressing your creativity, solving problems, teaching others, or making your community a better place to live because of your efforts.

How can you use these success tools to enhance your romantic relationship?

When you do more of what you love as an individual and as a couple, you aren’t bothered by annoying habits or by the ebb and flow of emotion which can sink a couple who lack a greater purpose for being together. So linking your relationship to a greater purpose is a secret of lasting love.

When you channel anger from a destructive block to a source of pure energy, you can use it to fuel greater passion, intimacy and romance and spark a lasting fire of love with your partner.

Get all the happy, sexy love you desire,

Hadley Finch

Single and Seeking Love?