Many Americans are mad as hell and they’re not
going to take it anymore. From angry spouses,
bullying bosses, rude co-workers and more work
responsibilities for the same or less pay, many
of us are angry during and after work.
Anger’s good if it fuels your passion, purpose, profit.
Anger’s not good, if it blinds you to vote for Donald Trump
Reality TV Star, whose rage-filled messages and plans to
build walls instead of bridges verify he is not qualified
to be our President.
Does that make you angry? Good. Here’s the antidote.
You’re about to discover how to use the energy of
anger for positive change at work, at home
and in politics as you read highlights of my
radio interview with Tom Wright.
Tom had advised Presidents Nixon and Ford. Today,
he’s an anger management expert and communications
coach who’s earned 7 black belts and published books
of poetry, plus self development books including,
How to Change Your Life Completely in Ten Seconds and
How Anger Makes Me Happy.
Hadley Finch: You’ve helped thousands of people,
from billionaires to death-row inmates, use anger to
their advantage. If anger often ruins relationships,
gets you fired or into big trouble, why do you
view anger as a good thing?
Tom Wright: Anger is just energy, neither good nor bad.
You can choose to channel the energy of anger into
greater creativity and confidence in your relationships
at home and at work.
Hadley: It’s not easy to channel anger when it’s
boiling up inside you like a pressure cooker on a hot
flame. How do you lower the heat before your anger
Tom Wright: Start at the beginning, which always
is with you. If you try to hide or deny your anger,
you raise the flame and set yourself up for
You can lower the flame when you observe your
anger building up and think, ‘I’m angry, and it’s
okay to feel this way.’ Then you notice the
behavior your anger usually evokes in you, and
you make better choices each time you feel angry.
Hadley: Venting anger in destructive ways
can be a tough habit to break. Where do you start?
Tom Wright: The road to anger and ruined relationships
is a four-lane highway that you’ve built inside you.
So you can change the direction of that road.
With daily practice of accepting anger and using it
it to make better choices, you can change anger
from being a block to being pure energy you use
to be happy. It’s not easy but it’s worth it,
because it will change your life.
Hadley: That may seem like an impossible dream,
if your anger has alienated too many people.
How do you handle anger that has sabotaged your
love and success?
Tom Wright: You make a commitment to handle anger
in new ways and set yourself up to win.
The first step is to find a life purpose that’s a
four-lane road to a new destination you love more
than where you ended up on your road to anger.
And take that new road from now on.
Hadley: Now you see that you can choose how to use
your anger. I encourage you to welcome it when you
feel it brewing up and see it as a new call to action.
Imagine how you can use the pure power of anger
to express your creativity, build better
relationships, get more accomplished at work and
fulfill your life purpose.
If you’re not sure how to fulfill your life
purpose, it’s often because you don’t know how to
find it. Here is the only clue you need:
Notice what you love to do, what makes you come
totally alive. Then do more of this every day.
Your life purpose brings you joy however you
fulfill it–whether it’s by raising a family,
making great friendships, growing a business,
cooking healthy meals, expressing your creativity,
solving problems, teaching others, or making your
community a better place to live because of your
How can you use these success tools to enhance
your romantic relationship?
When you do more of what you love as an
individual and as a couple, you aren’t bothered
by annoying habits or by the ebb and flow of
emotion which can sink a couple who lack a
greater purpose for being together.
So linking your relationship to a greater purpose
is a secret of a lasting love.
When you channel anger from a destructive block
to a source of pure energy, you can use it to
fuel greater passion, intimacy and romance and
spark a lasting fire of love with your partner.
Will anger sabotage the election of 2016?
Reality star Donald Trump is threatening more
angry, violent demonstrations by his voters if
he doesn’t win the Republican nomination for
Angry Trump voters can make a smarter choice.
Honor your anger. Use the pure power of your anger
in positive, productive ways to improve your life,
your relationships and keep our country great.
Best of love, success and happiness,