The happiest couples enjoy an active sex life, making love at least 2-3 times each week with their beloved partner to keep happy, sexy love hormones flowing in their brains. They enjoy the healthy longevity benefits that stem from an active sex life in a committed relationship known as the marriage effect.
Unhappy couples often complain that sex has become infrequent, predictable or non-existent. If couples allow the sexual fire to die in their relationship, one or both partners may feel justified in seeking emotional, physical, spiritual satisfaction elsewhere, on the slippery slope of affairs that often lead to divorce.
“Divorce is a failure in creativity,” I often say. Now I’ll reveal a creative alternative which rekindles the sexual spark even in couples who are stressed out, who have little or no desire for sex with their partner, and who may be on the brink of breaking up.
As I devoured the book, The Great American Sex Diet by Laura Corn, I was delighted to discover her simple erotic recipe for great sex that endures for decades:
ANTICIPATION + VARIETY = GREAT SEX
Upon first glance, you may misinterpret the second ingredient in this erotic recipe. Variety does not mean having sex with multiple partners, but creating sexual surprises that keep things fresh and fun for decades in a committed relationship. Why do couples need a variety of sexual surprises?
Because a cause of sexual malaise is predictability. The author describes it as a feeling that the partner you love and adore will not, cannot surprise you any more. If you separately ask each partner if they can predict how they’d make love that night, and they each answer, YES, then that’s red flag. It’s a warning sign you need to get unstuck from the sexual rut of predictability before sexual desire dies. How do you start?
The author gift wraps dozens of surprises that spice up sex, in packages labeled for women’s eyes only and for men’s eyes only. You won’t let your partner read your menu of surprises because that would spoil the surprise. I won’t be the spoiler by revealing the surprises here, but I encourage you to add them to your couples love toolkit today.
Why is anticipation the first ingredient in this erotic recipe?
The author explains that when you create a sense of anticipation surrounding sex, you give your partner a route to recharge their lust. Remember when you first met and you pawed at each other, teased each other, reveled in the waiting period as much as the consummation itself, because you never knew what was going to happen next?
Your physical and sexual attraction was palpable and ready to ignite like a wildfire, because of anticipation. Without it, sex often feels predictable and you may take each other for granted. “Oh, it’s you again.”
The face and body that used to drive you wild with sexual desire can seem like the same old, same old–unless you create a magical sense of anticipation. How do you start?
You’ll discover many tools and techniques of seduction when you embark on The Great American Sex Diet which takes you and your partner on an romantic journey lasting 28 days. Each time you introduce a new position, technique or toy from your new sexual treasure chest, you not only expand your sexual horizons but you also charge your sexual batteries and your partner’s.
If your sex life only revolves around the missionary position, then one or both of you eventually will feel bored. When you infuse your sex life with anticipation and a variety of sexual surprises that are suggested in this book, you can enjoy great sex for decades.
How do you define, “Great sex?”
The author says that great sex is whatever you believe it to be, whatever makes you feel good on the inside and out. Great sex changes all the time. Sometimes it’s about having a wild, fun time. Sometimes it’s more slow and romantic. Sometimes it’s being able to connect on the level of the soul.
The common denominator for all great sex is that the two people sharing the experience are both into it together. They are intimately united in body, mind, spirit.
There’s another important ingredient that could be added to this erotic recipe: FREQUENCY. It’s called The Great American Sex Diet because you will nourish yourself and your sexual partner each day for 28 days. What results can you expect?
Thousands of couples who followed this 28 day sex diet later gave this feedback to the author: Couples who commit to having regular sex report that they feel better, feel more alive. They can see this when they look in the mirror. They feel stronger, more orgasmic, more connected physically, emotionally, spiritually. Some couples even got pregnant during their 28 day sex diet.
If you desire a new menu of erotic recipes for great sex, you’ll love the full-meal deal you and your beloved will savor in The Great American Sex Diet.
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