Previously in our series, you learned why singles and couples should flirt everyday and how flirting creates great relationships in the first two parts of my summary of my A Lasting Love radio interview with Fran Greene. She’s a former director of flirting on match.com and author of The Flirting Bible.
Part 3 reveals the best flirting skills single men and women use to meet your love match on internet dating sites.
Hadley: How do you flirt with a match online?
Fran: First, know that flirting online is essential if you want to catch someone’s attention online. You have to be playful, spontaneous and complimentary as you comment about something you’ve read in their profile to start the conversation.
It’s not about being an investigative reporter. It’s about being light-hearted, casual and observant of complementary interests or reasons you might connect with a match.
The goal of flirting online is to move quickly from email to phone to a face-to-face meeting (in a public place).
Hadley: I often tell my online community that nothing is real until you meet face to face. You can fall in love at first write via email or with things someone says on the phone.
Yet 80 percent of our deeper understanding of a person and their potential to become a partner is gained while observing their non-verbal behavior when you see each other.
This is why I added video chats to SinglesLoveMatches.com. You start gaining a multi-sensory understanding of a person as soon as you see each other and get acquainted in live video chats.
Ideally, you are flirting in your video chats by making someone feel special and comfortable with you. Then you each can decide if you want to meet in a public place or sign up for our singles vacations you’ll love to get to know each other as you share the travel adventure with our group.
Do you still need a nudge to start flirting?
I’d like you to think of flirting as a playful love skill that makes people feel special. A playful attitude is sexy, when you leave your worries and inhibitions behind by focusing on ways to make others feel great.
Madonna once said that she’d flirt with anyone, from garbage men to grandmothers.
I often say that when you flirt, you’re giving someone the gift of your total attention and making them feel special. You’re adding the spirit of fun to your interactions and you’re being an irresistible love magnet who brightens the lives of people you meet.
So let’s go forth and flirt today and everyday as a fun way to meet your love match, keep love alive in a relationship and make people feel special because you’ve flirted with them.
Get all the happy, sexy love you desire,