Are you shingling sexual relationships? What causes you to be in more than one sexual relationship at the same time? Discover the reasons and risks of overlapping sexual relationships. Decide if you stay on that slippery slope or move to solid ground.
See if you recognize your motives for overlapping sexual relationships from this list:
Are you testing the viability of a new relationship before you leave the old one?
Are you dreading a painful break up?
Are you unwilling to be monogamous?
Do you feel vows or boundaries don’t apply to you?
Are you unwilling to deprive yourself of pleasure?
Are you placing your needs and desires ahead of your partner’s?
Are you afraid of being single?
Are you unhappy and unsure of what you want or need in a relationship?
Are you driven by reasons you don’t understand and only a therapist could uncover?
If you feel comfortable with your behavior and feel no need to change it or hide it from your sexual partners, there’s no need to keep reading.
If you feel concerned by this behavior, you may want to weigh the risks and rewards of continuing it.
What are some risks of being in two or more sexual relationships at once?
* Medical studies indicate that adolescents and adults of all ages who engage in sequential or concurrent sexual relationships have a significantly greater risk for Sexually Transmitted Diseases “STD’s” over and above their number of sexual partners.
When you have sex with one person, it is akin to having sex with every one of their past or current sexual partners in terms of your exposure to STD’s.
* You cause pain and risk the wrath of your primary partner, who inevitably finds out about your betrayal with other sexual partners.
* If you vowed to be faithful to one partner, then you no longer are aligned with your values while you are involved in other sexual relationships. Your resulting guilt or loss of honor whittles away your well being on many unseen levels.
* If you started a sexual friendship that gradually developed emotional bonds, you may have noticed how your overlapping affairs steal power and passion from each relationship.
If you prefer hot monogamy with one beloved partner, how do you step off your slippery slope for solid emotional ground?
In physics, the dominant vibration wins. So rev up your best qualities and take actions aligned with them.
Keep no secrets. If you are not willing to practice monogamy, be honest and clear about this from now on.
Choose partners who will accept your behavior, and ease the pain of your break up with a partner who will not tolerate it.
Commit to loving with honesty and integrity in all of your relationships, including the one you have with yourself.
Love deeply and live your dreams now,