The Science Times is my favorite read each Tuesday, because I love to see how natural laws may affect relationships. If you’ve ever wondered why your ideal relationship ended, you now can blame the breakup on two natural forces I call the dangerous duo. What are these two forces?
The first force is Entropy.
Entropy and the second law of thermodynamics suggest that in natural processes, a system will progress from order to disorder. The mathematics of heat exchange in entropy isn’t my focus when I apply this force to relationships.
In the system of a relationship, many couples strive to gain order, which may violate the second law of thermodynamics and doom your relationship to create disorder with a new source of heat. You or your partner may gain radiated heat energy from an emotional or sexual affair.
What are the risks of this energetic exchange?
Some couples find that when drawing energy from outside the system of their relationship, it is possible to increase the order in their primary relationship. They say they used the affair to improve their relationship. Most couples find that this approach causes disorder, breakups and divorce.
Why are humans in a well-ordered relationship so susceptible to Entropy?
The Ego is the force that creates relationship disorder.
The Ego is the part of us that continues to worry, to live in doubt and fear, to be self critical and judgmental of others. The Ego is afraid to trust. It needs to be right instead of happy. It will hold onto thoughts or actions even when they don’t work. It will urge you to move on when you feel restless–to seek your heat outside of your primary relationship. The ego eagerly moves your relationship from order to disorder in partnership with entropy.
Can a couple resist the forces of Ego and Entropy?
The power of choice is stronger than these two restless forces. Choice is the power to rise above destructive yearnings, to see consequences of each action and to select thoughts and actions that support your well being and your relationship.
Giving into the dangerous duo may be viewed as a mistake. I often tell my online community that there are no mistakes in relationships–only choices with love lessons attached like a bow.
How does this affect your love life?
Consider the choices you make in a dating or long-term relationship. Are you succumbing to the forces of ego and entropy and creating relationship chaos? Or are you committed to finding new ways to add heat to your existing relationship? The choice is yours!
What do you think about this dangerous duo? As always, I invite you to share your thoughts in the comment box below.
Dedicated to your dating and relationship happiness,