On an “Early Show,” in early September, love experts sparred over a recent French ruling that ordered a woman’s ex-husband to pay her $14,000 in damages because he didn’t have enough sex with her during their 21-year marriage.
The judge cited article 215 of France’s civil code, which requires married couples to share a “communal life.”
On the TV news show, Cosmopolitan executive editor Nicole Beland was appalled: “I think it’s obnoxious, it’s insane. Getting married does not guarantee that you’re going to have sex on tap for the rest of your life,” she said on the Early Show. “If your partner does not want to have sex, you have to get to the root of the problem.” She also says “WHAT HAVE THEY DONE TO WORK FOR IT“?
But Matt Titus, author of “Why Hasn’t He Called?” firmly disagreed: “Eighty percent of the time, you should acquiesce to your partner’s request for sex, whether you want to or not.” To Nicole Beland, he added, “I’m so happy that I’m not married to you.”
So what’s the hot-button issue?
A 51-year-old man was fined under article 215 of France’s civil code, which states married couples must agree to a “shared communal life”. A French judge has now ruled that this law implies that “sexual relations must form part of a marriage”.
This groundbreaking legal decision came after the wife filed for divorce two years ago, blaming the break-up on her husband’s lack of activity in the bedroom. A judge in Nice, southern France, then granted the divorce and ruled the husband named only as Jean-Louis B. was solely responsible for the split.
But the 47-year-old ex-wife then took him back to court demanding 10,000 euros in compensation for “lack of sex over 21 years of marriage”. The ex-husband claimed “tiredness and health problems” had prevented him from being more attentive between the sheets.
Then a judge in the south of France’s highest court in Aix-en-Provence ruled: “A sexual relationship between husband and wife is the expression of affection they have for each other, and in this case it was absent. “By getting married, couples agree to sharing their life and this clearly implies they will have sex with each other.”
What’s my reaction to this groundbreaking legal decision?
As America’s love guide who helps singles and couples get the red-hot love life you deserve, I often meet men and women who leave a relationship because their partner had stopped having sex with them, often after they’ve had all of their children. The Catholic church states that sex is for procreation, not recreation. Yet scientists report that couples who enjoy a happy, active sex life, making love at least twice a week with your partner in a committed relationship before and long after child-bearing years, reap profound health benefits of sexual healing and tend to live longer than single folks.
Making love everyday and eating bee products at every meal are daily love habits that Apiarians credit as the reason they enjoy healthy vitality into their 90s and beyond.
Before couples commit to a lifetime together, you must find out if you have compatible views of what a healthy sexual relationship entails. Are there any guarantees that your partner will participate in an active sex life that promotes sexual healing until death parts you?
Not unless you include this as a term in a marriage contract that you create before you walk down the aisle, and you add an escape clause-penalty if your partner ever stops making love with you. No one should be expected to stay in a sexless marriage that can harm your health and shorten your lifespan. Even when illness or impotence prevent you from having sexual intercourse, in recent articles I’ve explained many creative ways you can sustain a loving, passionate relationship with your partner as long as you both shall live.
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