Are sad old love stories preventing you from creating happy new ones? To find out, take this Love Test:
When you’re asked about a past relationship, do you:
Tell the same old story of its troubles and unhappy ending?
Explain the disappointments or betrayals that lead to a bad break up?
Describe all the ways you’re still struggling to get over it?
Mention all the reasons that subsequent relationships haven’t worked out
Talk about difficult obstacles in your current relationships?
Complain that your love life isn’t working out the way you’d liked?
How did you score?
If you answered NO to these questions, chances are excellent that you are enjoying a happy love life. And you are looking for ways to make it even happier. Get a happiness boost with 3 love tips you discover here.
If you answered YES to one or more questions, then you need a wake up call to new action. Here’s your alarm — You’re stuck in unhappy old love stories that will prevent you from enjoying new ones until you break through your big block to love.
Rewrite A Happy Ending To Your Sad Love Stories Without Lying With These 3 Simple Steps:
Step 1. Rewrite your past.
When you face troubling events in life or in a relationship, you have an emotional reaction to it and tell yourself stories to ease your pain or place the blame on someone else. The more often you tell these sad stories, the deeper they get wired into your brain and become an automatic monologue as you tell your love story. It’s a sad old monologue that nobody wants to hear. People will tune you out or disappear from your life until you rewrite your sad old stories with some happy endings.
How do you do this without lying to yourself and others? Take the next two steps.
Step 2. Remember the love.
When you look back at your life, start to see through the eyes of love instead of fear. The popular acronym for fear is False Events Appearing Real. Fear is a false story that taints your view of the past, because only love is real.
You can choose to live in love or in fear by your choice of your thoughts, memories, beliefs and stories you tell yourself and others. That’s hard to accept when you’re gripped by many faces of fear, which you may recognize as anger, jealousy, sarcasm, addiction to food, drugs, limiting beliefs or any form of negativity that blocks love.
Your heart doesn’t speak the language of fear. Your Ego does. If you’d like tame your fearful ego and rewrite a fearful story or memory, then you’re in the right mindset for the next step.
Step 3. Focus On The Beauty You’d Like To Experience Again.
You get more of what you focus on, so take control of your focus.
If you find yourself stuck in a sad old story, take a few deep breaths. Say, FEAR, to yourself, and then self correct. How?
*Look for the love lessons you learned in that experience. Now learn it so you don’t have to repeat it again.
*Uncover the silver lining in the dark cloud of each troubling experience, memory, story. And give thanks for it.
*Talk about the beauty of loving moments and memories that you want to experience again. Because you will.
When you see your past and present through eyes of love and you speak from your heart, then you are ready to rewrite an honest happy ending for your sad old love story.
This is how you touch the heart of a new romantic partner if you’re single or you feel free to create a new love story with your partner in an existing relationship.
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