Love songs can heal a broken heart, lead you into a passionate relationship or stoke the fire of fleeting romances. You’re about to find out love songs and a love scene in film help you move beyond infatuation and into genuine love. First let’s take a look at love songs that have the opposite effect.
Many love song lyrics are written about limerance. A term coined by a researcher named Tenov in the 1960s, limerance is a period of passionate, intense infatuation with another person. It is the falling in love experience when we think about this person all the time. We see them as perfect, as if we are blind to their flaws.
Song lyrics about a limerance phase include, “Can’t live, if living is without you”; and “Why can’t I breathe when I think about you?” and, “I’m desperate for your love.”
This phase of love-is-blind obsession is nourished from within, while our bodies make plenty of feel-good, in-love chemicals known as dopamine. I call them “Cupid’s Cocktails” when I write song lyrics about limerance.
The rush of Cupid’s Cocktails often causes couples to bond. When the rush wears off in the first few years of a relationship, a couple may wake up and realize they have little or nothing in common. They may feel the strong desire for a new rush of Cupid’s cocktails in a new phase of limerance, making them vulnerable to emotional or sexual affairs.
Limerance is not a guide to a happy relationship, because it is fleeting pleasure. I’ve written lyrics about the letdown when limerance wears off during a marital affair. “Cupid’s curse feels like a blessing that breaks the chain of the mundane. Cupid’s fury always fizzles, leaving pain in Cupid’s wake.” — Song Unsung
This limerance cycle often sends couples to divorce court and makes dating sites big business. How do we break the limerance cycle? How do we find a love that is deeper than the flow of Cupid’s Cocktails?
I often recommend a Love Guide in the film, Captain Corelli’s Mandolin (2001), based on the book by Louis de Bernieres. A wise father and physician (played by John Hurt) explains the difference between genuine love and infatuation to his daughter (Penelope Cruz) in this perceptive scene:
Iannis says, “When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots are become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part.
Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No… don’t blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away. Doesn’t sound very exciting, does it? But it is!”
Yes. Long-term love is exciting, when you see the beauty of your life tapestry woven together with your beloved’s.
I often tell my online community how to spark a lasting Fire Of Love in a committed relationship–when you create a life together that is far richer than you ever could have created on your own, or never could’ve imagined with anyone else.
How do you and your romantic partner move beyond infatuation and spark a forever love?
Clint Black’s song lyrics reveal the commitment you need. “When I said I do, I meant that I will ’til the end of all time. Be faithful and true, devoted to you. That’s what I had in mind, when I said I do.”
Couples who’ve gotten off track can rededicate themselves to each other and rekindle a forever love.
How do singles choose a match on this love wavelength?
Be clear about what you bring to a relationship and what qualities you desire in your partner. Be sure to reveal this information when you create your dating profile and during conversations with dates.
Like attracts like. If you have some fun as you express your vision of a loving relationship, then you will attract a fun-loving match who shares your vision.
I’ve described my vision in a love song that invites my love match to “Come To Me”.
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“Have you learned from lost love? And have you let it go? Are you willing to change? Willing to Grow? If you see the best in me, let’s go tenderly. Don’t wait, come on and write a new love song with me.
Come to me. Let’s fall in love. Leave your fear. Bring your tears and come to me. Don’t play it safe, take a leap of faith, baby. Come to me.”
How could you express a talent in ways that attract your perfect love match or spark more excitement in your relationship?
Writing love song lyrics and setting them to music is a creative gift you can give your sweetheart. If your love song will be enjoyed solely by the two of you, you don’t have to buy a license fee if you choose popular music as melody. Then add your own words or verses that make you feel exhilarated, tender, romantic and inspired by love. You can sing or record your love song and present it to your beloved as a testament to your everlasting love.
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