Why do so many of us get stuck in ruts? Einstein once said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, while expecting different results. My definition of a bad habit is an action you keep doing, even though it doesn’t bring the results you want.
Because our brains are resilient, we can form new thought habits and take new actions during our entire lifetime. A bad habit can be replaced with a better habit, once you become aware of the habit and you take action to change it. Yes, change is required if you want to move beyond a rut into a dream relationship.
You may be holding onto what you had or what has worked in the past, when it no longer works anymore. Whether you’re stuck in a dead-end dating rut or in settling for a disappointing or dull relationship, you can take new actions to create a dream relationship. A leadership expert named Linda Olson guarantees this result when you take 4 steps she revealed during my recent interview for A Lasting Love.
Linda Olson is a former college dean and gifted relationship coach who has spent 35 years guiding individuals and couples to make positive, lasting changes in their life and relationships. Linda wrote the book, Exceeding Your Expectations–10 Leadership Principles That Guarantee Results. madeforsomethingmore.com
During our interview, Linda guaranteed that you will move forward in a relationship when follow these 4 principles, which are an acronym for G.I.V.E:
4 Steps To GIVE And Get More Love, Success Happiness – Guaranteed
G. Get interested in the other person.
You get out of a rut by focusing on what the other person needs as opposed to what you want to give them or what you want to get from them. Your genuine interest establishes trust, which is the strong foundation for a relationship.
I. Initiate the first step.
Taking the first step is the key to success in life. However, always initiating action can become a rut in your love life.
A woman who initiates dates with a man may get frustrated when this man becomes a husband who fails to take initiative in their marriage. Or a man who always initiates sex may get frustrated when his partner doesn’t reciprocate. Be aware of the patterns you set when you initiate the first step.
V. Vulnerability is a must to be able to trust.
This is the toughest principle, because you risk getting hurt when you are vulnerable. When you share personally, respect your partner’s feelings and set healthy boundaries, then your partner will be more willing to be open and vulnerable.
E. Expect the best and exceed your expectations.
It is important to have positive expectations when you enter a relationship. This is how you bring out the best in your partner and you offer your best in return. United as a positive team, your relationship will continue to grow and exceed your expectations.
How does Linda Olson guarantee these results?
She says we’ve known for thousands of years that you reap what you sow. What you G.I.V.E. you get back–guaranteed.
I suggest you take these 4 steps to G.I.V.E. your best to attract your best love match or bring out the best in romance, intimacy, passion, fun and love in your relationship.
Get all the happy, sexy love you desire,
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