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Do you know how to end a relationship in a way that you’ll be remembered fondly? Avoid the 7 worst ways to end a relationship and choose a classy breakup tip from the the following options–
The 7 Worst Ways To End A Relationship:
1. Become Invisible
Vanish without giving any reason. Don’t return phone calls or emails. Leave your ex wondering if you died, lost your mind, or if you’ll regain your senses and reappear in their life at any moment.
A Classy Alternative:
Offer closure by giving a general reason for leaving. No blame. Simply say you no longer see a future together. If pushed for your reasoning, remember that your parting words echo long after you’re gone. What can you say to make your ex feel better for having known and loved you?
2. Announce Your Decision To Break Up By Text Message Or Email
Do this only if you want to be remembered as a coward.
A Classy Alternative:
Muster up your courage to end a relationship calmly, face-to-face. Learn a love lesson: It takes courage to love and trust, and courage to part in a way that honors this love and trust.
3. Use Honesty As An Excuse To Be Mean
Criticize flaws, list reasons why you’re turned off, say that your relationship was a mistake and a waste of your time, make your ex feel undesirable before you move on.
A Classy Alternative:
Share a few reasons why your time together was important and meaningful for you. Mention good qualities and positive feelings you’ve enjoyed. Say that you’re disappointed you don’t see a long-term future together. Now that you’ve made this decision, you want to act with integrity and free each other to find the relationship that supports their well being and greatest happiness.
4. Break Up In A Public Place
Assume that your ex is less likely to make a scene in front of witnesses. If they do lose control, let them humiliate themselves in public and justify your reasons for walking out.
A Classy Alternative:
Choose a calm moment in a cozy private place to explain your desire to end the relationship. Be understanding of an emotional reaction and apologize for the pain your decision has caused. Unless you fear physical harm, leave when your ex has calmed down.
5. Leave Your Relationship For Dead, And Don’t Call 9-1-1 Before You Move On
Don’t try to heal the ills in your current relationship. Dive into a new relationship and find out if it has potential before you breakup with your partner. Tell them you’re leaving because you’re in love with someone else.
A Classy Alternative:
Is your relationship worth saving? Have you asked your partner to help you resolve your blocks to happiness?
If you feel no need to improve the relationship, then do the honorable thing. End it before you look for a new one.
What if you’ve already bonded with a new love while you’re in another relationship?
Assume your ex will find out and you will cause them great pain. Will you admit this and ask for forgiveness? How will you ease the pain of betrayal in someone who loved and trusted you?
6. Stay In Touch By Phone And Stop By For Breakup Sex
Make sure your ex stays bonded to you so they’re not emotionally free to move on.
A Classy Alternative:
Free your ex to find a wonderful new relationship by ending your personal interaction. If you are co-parenting with your ex, your future contact will focus on parenting issues, not personal ones.
7. Give False Hope That You’ll Reunite When You Know It’s Over Forever
Try to soften the breakup blow with a lie. Suggest that you may revisit your relationship after you take a break. Never contact your ex again, because the truth is you have no desire to stay in touch.
A Classy Alternative:
Speak your truth from your heart. Forget flaws, because this discussion will make your ex become defensive. Mention good qualities in your ex that will attract someone wonderful. Explain that you each need to let go of each other so you’re free to love again. So it’s best if you each grieve this loss privately before you enter a new relationship.
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